HOW TO TELL SOMEONE THEY NEED TO LOSE WEIGHT

By Margot Rutigliano | Updated June 18, 2024

How to Support Someone in Their Weight Loss Journey - When it comes to helping someone lose weight, it's crucial to approach the topic with sensitivity and care. Weight loss is a deeply personal issue, and no one wants to feel singled out. Most people who are overweight are already aware of it and may not feel great about themselves. Therefore, addressing this topic requires a thoughtful, empathetic approach.

Weight loss is an emotionally charged subject. Those who struggle with their weight might experience feelings of embarrassment, shame, and low self-esteem, in addition to physical discomfort. If you wish to support someone on their weight loss journey, it’s important to do so from a place of genuine love and concern, rather than judgment or frustration.

Avoid Direct Confrontation
Telling someone outright that they need to lose weight is rarely helpful and often harmful. As highlighted above, the emotional complexity of weight issues means the conversation needs to be handled delicately. Your goal should be to support health and well-being, not to criticize.

Before offering help, consider whether the person is ready to make changes. Offering support to someone who isn’t prepared can be ineffective. Instead, focus on creating a supportive environment and gently encouraging healthier habits.

Reflect on Your Motives
Examine your own feelings and motivations before approaching the topic. Ensure that your concern is rooted in the person’s health and well-being, not just physical appearance. If health is your primary concern, there are many ways to offer support without explicitly mentioning weight loss.

5 TIPS TO HELP SOMEONE WITH WEIGHT LOSS

Be an example - Lead by example without saying a word. Adopt healthy eating habits and a regular fitness routine yourself. Show that a balanced lifestyle includes moderation, not deprivation. Your own health and happiness can inspire those around you.
Be a partner – Invite your friend or family member to join you in healthy activities, such as gym workouts, outdoor hikes, or yoga sessions. Suggest meal prepping together or dining at healthy restaurants. Share your own journey and include them if they’re interested.
Talk about health – Approach the topic from an “I” perspective rather than a “you” standpoint. Discuss your own health goals and improvements. Celebrate milestones like better blood pressure or reduced medication needs. Your success can motivate others.
Encourage positive behavior –Acknowledge and encourage any interest in healthy changes. If your friend is eating more vegetables or looking healthier, compliment them. Small, positive comments can have a significant impact without embarrassing them.
Avoid mentioning weight loss – When complementing someone on weight loss or new healthy behaviors, try to leave weight loss out of the conversation. You’re concerned for their health and well being. So focus on those things. How they look (health related), how they move and their mood/attitude are great examples. Here are some ways to compliment people without talking about losing weight:
- You look healthy.
- Your skin is glowing.
- It seems like you’re moving around much easier!
- You seem really happy lately.
- Wow, you eyes look so bright!
- Those jeans look great on you.
- You have so much energy lately!
- I love your energy!
- Your lunch looked so healthy, can I get the recipe?

By now, you should see that being an advocate, partner, and example can make a big difference. Offer a listening ear and be the supportive presence your friend needs. If they are actively working on losing weight, provide encouragement and positivity. If they aren’t yet ready, be a quiet source of inspiration.

Understanding Weight Loss Struggles

If you’ve never struggled with weight issues, you might not fully grasp the emotional and behavioral challenges involved. It’s okay! Educate yourself by researching or talking to someone who has experienced these challenges to better understand how to offer support.

A direct conversation about someone’s need to lose weight isn’t necessary and can be counterproductive. What your loved one needs is inspiration, motivation, and possibly some accountability. Be a friend, an advocate, and a partner in their journey. Stay positive and focus on overall health and well-being.

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